Somatic Sexual Wellness Coaching
Unlocking the mysteries of female sexuality for EVERYONE
Let’s make one thing perfectly clear . . .
You are not broken. The narratives and scripts you were given about sex are.
That does not make your pain or concerns any less real. It makes healing and growth not only possible, but with desire and dedication, guaranteed.
Do any of these feel familiar?
You are divorced or single. You yearn to feel confident and juicy. You want to have fun dating again. But the pain of past experiences or body shame holds you back.
You are a mom. You long to find your 'yum' again. Your sexiness. Your sensual, playful nature. But it feels like an impossible task. You are exhausted. And right now sex feels like a chore.
You are in a loving relationship, but your desires are mismatched. One of you wants more sex, experimentation, play, or novelty. The other feels like sex became a duty. Talking about it seems to get nowhere. Each of you is stuck in your proverbial corner wondering how you will make it through.
You are a man whose partner is just going through the motions. You can tell she's not into it. It's starting to erode your confidence. You want to lead her into a place of unending pleasure. But you don't know how.
Or . . .
You are not sure if you have ever had an orgasm.
You experience premature ejaculation, or delayed ejaculation.
You feel pain during sex.
Your libido is gone.
You can’t get out of your head and into your body during sex.
The Good News?
Your sexual problems are not a personal failing. Your body is not betraying you.
Your body is reacting to your circumstances. Those broadly being living in a sex-negative culture and a lack of comprehensive real-world sexual knowledge that includes female sexual pleasure.
You don’t have to wait for the world to change. With guidance and support, you can create a new embodied, integrated, sex-positive personal culture to transform your intimate relationship with yourself and your partner(s).
Why is female sexuality the key to unlocking sexual confidence and pleasure for all?
Because sex as we know it is based on the male body, leaving out half the population from having sex that is in alignment with their physiology. When we demystify female sexuality, we redefine sex and sex improves for all, regardless of gender. It gives everyone more possibilities for pleasure, connection, and intimacy. When you know what works for your (or your partner’s) body to have sex that is transcendent instead of tolerable, your confidence can’t help but skyrocket.
Awesome! So how do we get there?
Coaching! My unique blend of somatic sex coaching, education, and trauma resolution takes you from where you are now to where you want to be.
Somatic sexual wellness coaching is your map. I am your guide, confidant, cheerleader, accountability, and hand-holder. I provide you with shame-free somatic sex education, laser-focused coaching, compassionate attunement, and radical permission. Together we gently uncover limiting stories and beliefs that keep you stuck while tracking your body to discover your unique erotic truth.
My coaching program is holistic and tailored to your needs. It includes:
Discussion: Nothing is TMI. There is great freedom in finally saying what you may have never shared. It’s my honor to provide that safe space for you.
Reflection: Hear your thoughts and feelings reflected back to you to uncover truths and lies you may have missed before.
Sex education: Learn your full sexual anatomy, techniques, and how your brain, hormones, and body responds to sex.
Communication: Learn how to talk about sex, inside and outside of the bedroom.
Hormone optimization: Set up your lifestyle to support your sex hormones. Start using Fertility Awareness Method if you choose.
Mindset: Catch your default beliefs about sex, intimacy, and gender. Replace them with aligned beliefs that reflect who you want to be.
Deep self-inquiry: Written or spoken exercises to clarify your true desires and what gets in the way of them.
Sensation tracking: Learn to speak the language of your body. Never second guess your ‘yes’ and your ‘no’ again.
Cultural literacy: Examine your inherited sexual scripts. Depersonalize your problems. Make new choices that work for you.
Pleasure mapping: Unearth your turn-ons. From subtle to ecstatic.
Energy mastery: Feel life force flowing through you and decide where and how to direct it.
Sensual Movement: Embody your authentic eroticism.
Simple somatic practices: Change happens through the body, not just the mind.
Core & pelvic floor exercises: Recover from birth injuries, pelvic pain, or a lack of sensation.
Tools to explore in session and at home: We do practices in session, and I give you simple, doable ‘homeplay’ to keep the transformation unfolding between sessions.
Working with me is slow, embodied, and 100% consensual. It is trauma-informed.
Sexuality work is deep work. It can be challenging. As such, every step of the way is fully explained and agreed upon before we proceed. The entire process is built on your consent. You set the pace. We don’t push. We allow.
And yet, it’s not all hard and serious. We will have fun and laugh. We will use play as a tool for learning, and I will help you bring playfulness back into your sex life.
*This is coaching and education. I guide and facilitate your own erotic discoveries. We do not engage sexually.
It’s never too late to begin.
My clients range from mid-twenties to mid-seventies.
How does the coaching program work?
The Somatic Sexual Wellness Coaching Program is for you if you are ready to heal the pains of your sexual past and grow into the expansive, pleasurable potential of your sexual future.
Coaching rates are as follows:
$250/session
$1150/5 sessions
$2100/10 sessions
All sessions are approximately 1 hour and conducted over Zoom or in person in Ashland, Oregon.
The program also includes
A recording or summary email after every session with home-play for the week.
Personalized resources- videos, books, podcasts, articles, etc.
Optional access to me via Voxer (voice memo app) for quick coaching for an additional $100/month.
Please note:
Coaching sessions are only available until October 2024. If you are curious about coaching, apply now.
Does this feel like a YES?
To get started, click the button and fill out a brief application.
After receiving your application, we will schedule a free 30-minute consultation call. If we are both a yes to working together, we will schedule our sessions. If it is not a clear yes, I will provide you with other potential next steps for your journey.
I only take two new clients per month. If I don’t have room, you will be put on a waitlist and contacted when a spot becomes available.
Have some questions first?
Frequently Asked Questions:
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No. While coaching has similarities to therapy, they are not the same. First, as a coach, I do not diagnose you. Next, coaching is about working in the present to move you toward your goals while therapy is often about healing childhood wounds to move you forward. While I am trained in trauma resolution, if you have unprocessed sexual trauma, you may want to consider therapy first. Many of my clients have had sexual trauma and worked with a therapist before working with me. Coaching is a great next step after therapy.
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Many 1:1 coaching programs cost $6,000 to $15,000 for six months. In contrast, this program offers the option of one, five, or ten sessions to fit your budget, needs, and goals.
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Approximately two hours: one hour for a coaching session and one hour for homeplay. Believe me, you have the time. You may just need to give up some other activities (ahem, scrolling) or set some clear boundaries to make time. The time you put in greatly determines your results.
You can go from
Sexually hesitant and sexually confident
No libido to whoa libido
Sexual confusion to erotic embodiment
It’s all possible. Remember . . .
Sex is not innate. It is a learned skill. We learned through our culture. We learned through the explicit and implicit messages of the media, religion, the medical system, friends, and family. We learned through the absence of conversations. But thankfully, all of this can be unlearned and replaced with the shame-free, personalized sex-ed you wished you had from the start.
