It’s a wild time in our country for women and people with vulvas. There’s been a shakeup in the last few years with the #metoo movement, #timesup, electing accused (and confirmed) sexual predators to the highest offices in the land, and laws threatening our basic bodily autonomy and healthcare. Phew. It’s A LOT.

These times can leave us feeling very destabilized, disempowered, or downright scared. And as much as it feels like a non-stop shit storm or like we’re going back in time about a century, this shakeup is actually an opportunity.

Sex geek time with sex statistics:

Women are four times more likely than men to report that sex has been not at all pleasurable in the last year.

95% of men vs 65% of women report always or often having an orgasm in sex.

This is what’s referred to as the pleasure gap.

Let’s dig a little deeper and find out wtf is going on here, shall we?