12 Feb Because love…
I quite like that we’ve chosen February to be the month we outwardly exalt love. In February we celebrate Imbolc, a cross quarter day between the winter solstice and spring equinox that lets us know we’ve made it through the dark, cold winter and the new life and light of spring is indeed on the horizon. It makes sense to put the emphasis on love to fuel this transition from dark to light.
But how we define, generate, give, and receive love will greatly affect our ability to be fed by its grace.
This was a tough love year for me, as you’ve seen if you read my blog regularly. Great romantic love left my life and I lost a dear friend to violence. I had to redefine love for myself or seemingly die by its disappearance.
The greatest teaching I received about love this year was during the total solar eclipse in August. As I sat in the greater field of collective intention, watching the moon eclipse the sun, what came to me was ‘receive all the different ways people love you.’
No longer could I be bound to the small story of one romantic love to fill my cup. What got me through was expanding my definition of love to include the other than human world around me. I’ve always been one who communes with nature, but it was time to take that relationship deeper, higher, and wider- it was time to make this my primary relationship, without shutting myself off from all the human to human love as well.
Love does not come in one form. It is not a diamond ring. It is not one flavor. And the way you are most habituated to receive love, might not be the way those who love you give you their love. Check out http://www.5lovelanguages.com/ for more insight into this.
One thing I know for sure- there is no lack of love. But it can be hard to know and see that when we’ve been taught a very narrow pathway for what love is, who it can come from, and how it can be shown.
Loneliness can feel crippling. It can feel like there is no love, but the truth is, it is always there and available to you. The earth loves you. She is always there to give and receive your love. The sun and the moon rise everyday. Let their consistency fill you with love.
This is not about bypassing other emotions. This is to know in your bones that even in the darkest depths of challenge and pain, love is there to hold you through it as you fall apart and eventually come back together.
D.H Lawrence said it best:
“Oh what a catastrophe, what a maiming of love when it was made a personal, merely personal feeling, taken away from the rising and the setting of the sun, and cut off from the magic connection of the solstice and the equinox! That is what is the matter with us. We are bleeding at the roots, because we are cut off from the earth and sun and stars, and love is a grinning mockery, because, poor blossom, we plucked it from its stem on the tree of Life, and expected it to keep on blooming in our civilised vase on the table.”